I can remember, viscerally, how it felt to be stuck in hellish situations as a child, lacking the power to do anything about my suffering. I experienced this in school, in my social environment, and at home.
So, in retrospect, it's no surprise to me, that my entire life, in some way or another, has focussed on my personal, emotional healing and understanding how to nurture AGENCY (power of the individual to actively shape their relationships) and cultivate environments that are conducive to happiness, loving and belonging.
Experience living on three continents has taught me that a surprising number of people elect (consciously or unconsciously) to remain trapped in emotionally toxic environments before accessing tools like The Compassion Map, Philip's Rule or the BEnome Map.
As a mediator, I focus on what each of you wants, your respective needs and what you are entitled to.
When conflict arises in any of these areas, the tools that I've mentioned allow us to look more deeply at these desires, needs and entitlements. In more than 90% of situations, you and the other party will find the way to address your challenge that in a way that satisfies everyone involved.